Hi Reader,Last month, a client sent me her AI draft. On paper, it was flawless and the grammar was perfect. It had a clean flow, and if you've ever used a GPT to write your draft, you'd have noticed it wrote in short, punchy sentences. When she read it aloud… she sounded like a robot. You could 'tell' it wasn't written by a human. Here’s why: it was stripped of emotion and because she was clinging to perfection—every word had to be flawless, and every sentence had to be “just right,” she didn't notice. That attachment to perfection stripped her delivery of energy, warmth, and presence. Here’s how we broke through—and how you can too:
By the end, my client went from chasing perfection to connection. (I sat in on her live online presentation ) She captivated her audience from beginning to end. 👉 If you’ve ever struggled with perfection, people-pleasing, or second-guessing yourself… chances are it's getting in the way and you’ve got a “speaking saboteur” holding you back from presenting at your full potential. Find out which one is yours in the Speaking Saboteur Quiz. and all my quiz-takers unlock instant access to the The Confident Speaking Sprint (email-based course) absolutely FREE
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Hi Reader, Most people move more when they feel unsure. In fact, nervous speakers speed up, fidget, and fill every gap with words — because silence feels risky. What confident communicators do is the opposite. They pause.They stay grounded.They don’t rush to fill the space.They’re not scrambling for the next thought. That’s self-trust — the willingness to pause without panicking. This is true whether you’re speaking in person or online. Stillness tells people: nothing needs to be proven right...
Hi Reader, Most people add words when they feel unsure. It shows up as one more sentence, extra explanation or clarifying something no one asked for. But in presentations that matter, something different shows up. People who know what’s at stake speak less. They stop sooner and trust the point to land. Not because they have nothing more to say — but because they know what actually matters. Authority isn’t volume. It’s knowing what matters. If you want to see what this sounds like in practice,...
Hi Reader, Last week, Emily S. asked if confident speakers are just naturally polished. My response: "No!- they're disciplined" A lot of work looks effortless from the outside. Confident speakers, polished creators, people who seem calm and clear every time they speak put the work in and ... What we usually don’t see... is the discipline underneath it. Clarity shows up as subtraction and confidence shows up as restraint— fewer words, clear and strategic silence (a.k.a pauses), and solid...